Written by Cherie Stueve, MBA, CPA (inactive), who has extensive knowledge and experience regarding financial counseling, and is a longtime volunteer financial mentor for participants in the HCCI HOPE Program. . Reprinted with permission.
Time to start planning for gift-giving that truly embraces your family’s reason for the season and doesn’t leave a credit card hangover in January. Don’t let the spirit of shopping bring you down emotionally or financially this year. There are many creative ways to celebrate the holidays and let the important people in our lives know we care and appreciate them.
Be proactive early in the year
The cycle: Do you have that family member or friend that always remembers you with a wonderful gift every December causing you to feel obligated to send something too – even if your budget is tight or you have no idea what to give them? Year after year you dread the search for the reciprocal gift.
Consider sending a sweet note now to stop the spending-giving cycle. Mention how you always delight when you hear the pretty wind chimes they sent last year, but this year your family feels so blessed and wants to exchange warm wishes & updated pictures only.
Your friend may secretly appreciate your idea to take the burden off of them, too! If your great aunt Ginny continues to insist on doing “something” for you, let her know you are limiting your gift list this year and mention your favorite charity as an option.
Secret Santas: Your small group, workplace, or gal pals draw names every year. One gift for this group and one gift for that group can add up in money & shopping time. Is your gift from last year still on display or being used?
Suggest early that Christmas be a little different this year. Everyone can bring a white elephant item from their house for a gift-swapping game while you sip eggnog and sneak another piece of fudge. There are various themes you can use like everyone brings a piece of jewelry they no longer wear, a scarf, a homemade treat, or a dusty kitchen gadget. The laughs come from the surprises inside the pretty paper and the swapping. Go a step further and have a fun raffle of white elephant items with the proceeds supporting a local charity or other agreed-upon organization.
Growing families: The baby that squeezed the stuffed toy with delight, the preschooler that got lost in picture books has grown into a teenager wearing brands you don’t recognize and listening to songs that are downloaded from the computer. Parents have a tough time with their own growing children’s interests and sizes. Christmas at Grandma’s has turned into an exchange of gift cards to the mall or electronic’s store. Talk to you siblings about surrendering to the ever-changing trends and not trying to buy for nieces and nephews. Suggest exchanging board games that are collecting dust in your closet for a refreshing change on the next snow day.
Cashless Gifts-The thought counts
Christmas is not only a time to gather with family and candlelight services, but also a time to show appreciation for those that make your life a little better or serve you in some way during the year.
Teachers: Teachers touch our children’s lives in important ways. A handwritten Thank You note from you and your child will be treasured more than another apple ornament. Go one step further and write a formal letter of appreciation to the school principal, detailing the wonderful things the teacher does every day.
Service providers: Everyone appreciates a thoughtful note, letting them know they do a great job. Write a personalized card to those that make your days easier and send a professional letter to their supervisor to include in their personnel file.
Projects of Christmas past: Got a few projects that didn’t make the December 25th deadline? Find that shoebox full of materials and finish the projects for this year. You receive the gift of space while your friend receives a one-of-a-kind homemade gift. Host a UFO (UnFinished Object) party with other crafty friends now.
Food: Everyone loves food. The simplest cookies on a plate with your handwritten Christmas card makes a wonderful gift. While your friend is frazzled from a hectic holiday routine, she can recharge with a sweet treat and a cup of tea. Your famous candy is a universal gift for anyone you want to remember, even if you don’t know their shirt size or favorite perfume. The dry cleaner that has your order ready as soon as they see your car, the dependable school bus driver, and the guard at your workplace will feel special with a homemade goodie box.
Time is Priceless
Friends and family value your time and attention most of all, whether they voice it or not. Think of ways to share your precious time in the upcoming year.
Children: Make up coupons for family time fun like playing a favorite game, making a yummy recipe, creating a Saturday special breakfast menu, or picking wildflowers in the spring. The internet has loads of crafty project ideas and instructions for one-on-one time together during school breaks or weekends.
Friends: Give your friends coupon for two hours of deep cleaning help, yard work, babysitting, or rides to appointments for a senior neighbor.
Aging family: The eldest are sometimes the hardest to buy for if they are limited in their abilities or living space. While visiting my Mama, I could see the typical gifts of perfumed lotions, candles, picture frames, etc. that cluttered up small rooms at the nursing home. Your grandmother will cherish a long letter of your memories of her baking in the kitchen, planting flowers together, or the Barbie clothes she sewed after a long day at work – and she will treasure & read your letter over and over again. Let her know whenever you make cinnamon rolls from her recipe, you think of her.
A wonderful coupon for a distant relative can be more frequent phone calls next year. Set up a day that normally works for you like the first Sunday of the month and call. Your grandpa will be so thrilled it will make the calendar! Another idea is your commitment to more emails, letters, and pictures of ever-changing children.
Many seniors want to jump into the computer age, but need a patient tutor. Your gift of time could be weekly lessons on how to use the internet and email. Grandpa wants to laugh at the kittens on You Tube, too!
Bring back the Christmas Fund
Even after trimming down your list, there are probably still a few people on your shopping list. Many years ago, your local bank encouraged savings each month for the expenses of December. Start your own Christmas Account savings account or cookie jar at home by:
- Recycle your cans and bottles for the CRV value
- Sell your old and broken jewelry for cash
- Use ebay or craiglist to sell unwanted items that still have value
- Exchange your coins for gift certificates at any designated CoinStar machine
- Offer to babysit for young parents who can use the time to bake or shop
- Take a part-time seasonal job when the shops needs more holiday help
- Set aside a small amount each paycheck in the new year for next year’s smaller shopping list
Be a voice of change for your family, friends, and neighbors this holiday season. In January, reflect back on what worked and what didn’t work for you. Make a plan for next year to stay within your budget, but also make the holidays a special time and filled with memories, not credit card statements.
Think back to last December 26th and what you wish would happen differently next year. Next year is here – and you can help not only yourself, but your family, friends & co-workers, have more fun this holiday season without the dread of January’s credit card statements.